Tyler Perry why did I get married

I watched Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married the other day with my wife.  I really enjoyed the movie I have to say.  I was actually caught off guard by how much I enjoyed it.  I am not sure what I was expecting from the movie but it was really good.  My wife ordered it through netflix, which until very recently was a great stock to own. 

I wanted to share with you a line from the movie.  Tyler Perry's character is talking with three other guys and they are talking about marriage.  Tyler's character is trying to convince another character to stay with his wife.  Tyler's character talks about the 80/20 rule.  He says that in a relationship a person will usually only get about 80% of what they need.  He says why would you leave the 80% and go chase the 20%.  It doesn't make any sense.

I think in life that there are many many instances where we get 80% of what we need, it could be in a job, or in a marriage, or in a place to live, in an education, it can happen almost anywhere.  So why do we look at the 20% we aren't getting and long for it?  I honestly think it is because we take the 80% for granted.  We as humans tend to forget how blessed we are and look at what we don't have.  It is so easy to compare yourself to the neighbors or friends or colleagues, and say to yourself, why don't I have that?  I am about to spoil the movie a little if you haven't seen it, but in the end the one guy does leave his wife and he ends up regretting it.  The second movie really shows how much he regrets it.

My point is, if you are unhappy with something in your life, make a list.  One side put all the things that are great, all the areas you feel blessed.  On the other side put all the things you don't have.  I am fairly confident that you will find the list of good is much bigger than the list of bad.  I think that the secret to happiness in life it to always look at the 80% and ignore the 20.

I am a Tyler Perry fan for sure now!  Although I didn't like Why Did I Get Married 2 nearly as much.  Mostly because of how it ended.  Go see the movies, you might just enjoy them.